Whats your story?

I had an interesting conversation with my lovely daughter Kelsea the other day. She was telling me how she sometimes feels caught up between friends who are disagreeing for one reason or another and expecting her to take their sides. She has shown great strength and confidence for her age (12) by standing her ground and telling all of her friends that she will not get involved in their disputes and will remain impartial and a friend to all of them. We were talking about why people feel the need to draw others to their cause – it seems to be human nature to do so. The need to share your story, to have your feelings justified and to feel important.

We all have this need in one way or another, sharing our experiences by talking about them can help us to work through the feelings and find some clarity in what to do. It can be easy to get a bit caught up in it all however, to the point where you can’t see any other point of view and instead of moving on you end up reliving and going over and over what has happened in the past. The ability to step back and take a wider view than our own is a great skill to develop.

Meditation can be very helpful in doing this, take some time to sit and ask yourself what your story is right now? Examine it from different angles and become aware of what emotions are accompanying the story and perhaps obscuring part of it. This is a great practice to find some clarity and closure on situations which are lingering within your mind or heart.

Love and light,

Belinda

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Cleansing breath

It’s been a while since I shared a practice on my blog so hare is one that comes in handy during busy times – we are fast approaching the end of year craziness, stressful times – for many this also applies to the end of the year or anytime you just need to press your “reset” button because everything just gets overwhelming.

I often use this practice to begin a yoga class as it is nice to come into your practice refreshed and let go of any baggage you brought with you at the beginning. I also teach it a lot in prenatal classes as it is wonderful during labour and during those emotional moments that can occur during pregnancy and motherhood.

It is a simple practice which is not contraindicated for anyone but, as always, if you don’t feel comfortable with it for any reason then please adapt or withdraw from the breath practice.

While it can be done anywhere and anytime it is nice to be seated comfortably and you might like a little privacy as it can be noisy and might get you some strange looks in the office or supermarket!

To practice the cleansing breath you simply take a full inhalation through the nose then exhale through the mouth. As you breathe out let the breath make a sighing sound – the louder you let it be the more effective the practice is so don’t be shy. Three of these breaths are enough to give you a boost but you can practice as many as you like. The full inhalation is energizing while the sighing exhalation is relaxing and releases physical tension, mental busyness and emotional holding. It’s a winner all round.

Hope you enjoy the practice.

Love and light,

Belinda

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Did you miss me?

Apologies for this weeks post being a few days later than normal. The reason for this delay is that we’ve had a few days of great weather and equally great progress on our extension so I’ve been working from dawn ’til dusk making that happen.

This progress has brought together elements that have been happening slowly but surely over the past month or so. We’ve built walls, put in our flooring and lots of other preparatory work has been going on. While this kind of work has to happen it sometimes feels like you’re working constantly without having much to show for it which can get a little frustrating. Then all of a sudden in a few days it all comes together and it seems like you’ve made a huge leap forward which is extremely rewarding.

The same thing can happen with our yoga practice, often we go to our weekly class or do our daily practice and seem to be just going along, though we are enjoying our practice and feeling the benefits the way we don’t feel like we are progressing in any major way. Then suddenly we find ourselves going deeper into meditation or feeling more stable in tree pose or releasing more fully into savasana or all three within a few weeks. The commitment to practice without focusing on the outcome will bring the outcomes in their own time. If we try to hurry this along we can either injure ourselves by pushing in asana practice or mentally beat ourselves up for not achieving enlightenment after three weeks of meditation. By trying to make progress happen before its time we often end up going backwards rather than forwards.

As this applies to renovations and to yoga so it also applies to much in life- careers, parenting, relationships and just about everything else. Fostering a patient and accepting attitude while working toward achieving our goals will bring rewards faster than rushing along frantically.

Love and light,

Belinda

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